“True love is your soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another.”

So last night while watching Wedding Crashers for the 100^th time, I came across a scene where Owen Wilson tries to woo Rachel McAdams with a corny love quote. His sole intention at first is to get in bed with her, until he realizes that he seems to genuinely want to get to know her (and even more-so once he figures out that she has a boyfriend.) And, she eats it right up… and even uses his corny quote in her speech as the MOH in her sister’s wedding.

“True love is your soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another.”

While this is a silly movie, this quote stuck with me.

In the study of communications, it has been found that in fact opposites do not attract. While many would argue against this, it has been statistically proven that at first maybe opposites do attract like a magnet, but eventually a relationship between people who are drastically different will fall apart or deteriorate.

Why? You may ask…

Well, in order to be compatible with someone, it seems you must have enough in common (whether it be morals, political viewpoints, etc) in order to get along. (Think of that one person you cannot stand, and why you cannot stand them… probably because they have different viewpoints than you have.)

On the surface, some people may seem to be opposites and have a very functional relationship. Take my parents, for example… mom’s type-A, and pretty serious, while dad’s the typical jokester. But, deep down they have very similar views on a multitude of subjects. And whala! Great relationship.

For those who would argue “well I’m sooo different from the person I’m dating and we are in love” that’s a lie. Eventually you’ll realize you have more in common than you believe you originally did, and that is what the driving force is behind the success of the relationship.

But now, back to the quote.

First off, I love the quote. I feel that it epitomizes what I’ve tried to say about love all along: that something inside you just feels it. Something realizes that the other person is right for you, belongs with you, and is meant for you. Yes, corny as always, but hey! Just go with it. Sometimes you need that other person to complete you… to finish your sentences… to just be around.

So, my soul will continue to be on the hunt for its counterpoint, so that one day, it is complete.

Until then,

M