Updating the Fairytale

I have been told that the way I think about love is either from a movie (yes its true) or some sort of fairytale that according to most, will never come true. But, I’m going to reject that theory. While I may have thought about that “fairytale” differently when I was younger, I have constantly been updating it.

Who’s to say that it has to stay the same your whole life?

I recently looked up the definition of fairytale and came across this one: a story in which improbable events lead to a happy ending. But, why does it have to be improbable? If you dictate your own life, and you choose the paths that you ultimately take, cant your dreams still come true? No, I’m not talking about a prince showing up in a horse drawn carriage and waltzing over to me bending down on one knee and miraculously producing a 5 carat ring from his pants pocket, although that’d be kind of nice, I’m talking about the adult updated version of that story.

For those of you who are married, isn’t your hubby your prince charming? Didn’t he rescue you from a life of solitude? He may not look like a prince from a Disney movie and may not always say or do the right things, but he’s the guy who loves you unconditionally, is there through the good and the bad, and is a built in best friend. While your life may not look like Cinderella’s (after she is rescued by the prince,) it is your version of a fairytale. Your updated adult mature version.

We need to erase the dictionary definition of fairytale and replace it with, “when a set of events leads to a happy ending.” It doesn’t need to involve fairies or childhood stories, but it can involve the events of your life that ultimately lead to your happiness. It is a more optimistic version.

If we walk around with the mentality that fairytales are childish and improbable, where will that leave us? Probably without the happy endings, and without the happiness we so deserve.

Maybe my thought process is childish for believing in these fairytales, like small children believe in Santa Claus. But, when we were little we were always taught to dream big and discuss our life aspirations and goals. Isn’t this the same thing?

I was talking to my mom yesterday when she assured me that I shouldn’t worry and that one day I would find a man. My response, “I know I will.” I am not cocky, I am just optimistic. I am waiting for prince charming even if he arrives in a simple car with simple clothes, and not perfectly glued hair like the Disney princes I grew up looking at.

Always a princess,

M